Since the beginning of this adoption journey, which coincidentally began in early March of 2010 (just one year ago!), I wondered about how a visit like this would go down. Would I be nervous? Would it be uncomfortable? I mean how does a visit so filled with emotion begin and end? Well, all I can say is it just does and it just did.
We spent the weekend in Washington and had a blast exploring Olympia, vintage clothes shopping, drinking coffee, eating great Mexican food and spending time with our extended family.
Seeing Lilleth with her birthmom was so sweet. I imagine it was like looking in a mirror for Lilleth - seeing where she gets her eyes and nose from. Similar for her birthmom, I saw the spark in her eyes when she looked at how beautiful and happy Lilleth is, a sense of relief and excitement that we really are committed to her and this new "family" and of course a bit of sadness, which I cannot even comment on or know how to write about. But all in all our visit was so natural, kind of like going to your cousin's house for a birthday. It was really evident that we are all working to figure this thing out and open to experiencing it with open and honest communication and a little bit of humor.
I really am looking forward to future visits - watching and supporting Lilleth as she builds a relationship with her birthmom. I also look forward to continuing to build my relationship with Lilleth's birthmom, she is fun to be around and I can't wait to see what she is going to accomplish in the coming years.